About Therapy & Lindsay

About Me

A little bit about who I am…

I’m Lindsay!

Am I a normal human? Yes.

Am I a therapist because I am perfect in every single way and have never had a human problem? No.

Would therapy even work if that were the case with therapists? CERTAINLY not.

Growing up I took to heart so many messages that told me other people were better than me. That for people to stay by my side and love me I had to accommodate them and be perfect. That my natural way of being was shameful. I’d learned that who I was wasn’t good enough, and that I should be ashamed of my imperfection and the things that made me ME, or I would be alone, I wouldn’t succeed, and even my family wouldn’t want me.

When I was 18 years old and left for college, the emptiness I felt consumed me so completely that I couldn’t get out of bed. All I could say to explain the heavy, endless dark hole I felt inside was “I just have nothing to offer.”

So I spent my 20s finding out how to fill that void. How to look at my shame, and SHARE it with others, and find SAFE people who love me for all of me, and who don’t expect me to be someone I am not. How to TAKE CARE of myself in a deeply spiritual way that makes me feel my connection to the universe. How to see that my spirit and my natural way of being are BEAUTIFUL, LOVABLE, and desired by those who love me.

Then I Became A Therapist, So You Can Feel All These Things Too.

My journey has been marked by so many powerful, beautiful women who have shown me they’ve felt empty and lost too. You are not alone. This is part of life. And getting to a place of peace and calm takes connection and help from others. There is NO shame in needing help. In fact, we’ve evolved as a species to rely on one another for survival.

I Am Here To Journey With You, Because Humans Flourish Through Connection.

Getting my professional footing…

I earned my master’s degree in Counseling Psychology at the University of Denver, and during that program I spent two years working with people who were in pain from a huge spectrum of experiences. The education and experience were exceptional, and I could not be a therapist without it.

When I graduated, however, I still felt as though I was missing something really important. I had all of this textbook understanding of skills, modalities, etc., but I still felt this strange void – this whisper in the back of my mind that “something is missing.”

How could that be?! After everything I learned and all the hours I spent doing clinical work, how on earth could I still feel as if I needed something more? Ugh.

So I ventured out and started exploring, which led me to Reiki.

I’ll start by saying Reiki exists in the realm of the spiritual. It’s not something I would have learned in my master’s program, where we learned about the Western medicine approach to therapy – where the “potential for liability” is KING and rules us all – where modalities and theory and data and measurable assessments are the accepted forms of therapy, because they fall within the boundaries of the liability-free model we hide behind in our overly litigious society.

Reiki led me to something different. It began my exploration of our energetic existence in the world and our connection to everything. The experience of Reiki is individual to each person, and it often cannot be explained with words. It’s a practice of trust and letting go and intuition. And it is how I began to shed light on that dark void that still lingered in my mind.

Spiritual exploration is NOT required for therapy to be successful.

It’s something that has been meaningful for me and answered many of my own questions about the universe, but it’s not right for everyone – and it is certainly not required for healing.

I am talking about it here only because it’s important to know that if some spiritual exploration sounds right for you, I am here for it.

Some other things you might like to know about me…

I live in Denver with my partner and our dog, Patty. We treat Patty as though she is the greatest and most perfect dog that has ever existed on planet earth, despite the fact that she still pees on the floor sometimes (it’s always spiteful). On a daily basis I can hear my partner from the other room telling Patty how pretty she is, how perfect she is, how much he loves her, etc. I think this is normal, but I’m not sure.

I grew up on the East coast, and after college I lived in New York City for four years working for startups. I came out to Denver because people here are a lot friendlier, and I don’t get a grimace or an eyebrow raise from strangers when I say “hello” or ask them about their day. It’s just different here, and I love it very much.

My free time is spent doing the same normal things Denver people do: hiking, skiing, cooking, going to breweries with friends, finding fun places to have my dog off leash, etc.

I’m a terrible cook; and I am disappointed every single time I attempt to make something, and it’s horrible. I do keep trying, though.